New Year’s resolutions can give us the drive to act and trigger motivation – but on the other hand, they can also lead to crisis. A great deal depends on various factors, such as:
– have we adequately assessed our strengths and capabilities and realistically set them against the height of the “bar”?
– Do we treat our plans rigidly or flexibly? Will I be satisfied if I achieve the goal only partially, or will I read it as a failure?
– Do we give ourselves the right to not realize (or not fully realize) our resolution?
– have we adequately assessed our strengths and capabilities and realistically set them against the height of the “bar”?
– Do we treat our plans rigidly or flexibly? Will I be satisfied if I achieve the goal only partially, or will I read it as a failure?
– Do we give ourselves the right to not realize (or not fully realize) our resolution?
The point is not to give up on New Year’s resolutions altogether, but to approach them “head on.” Try to think about whether the goal you plan to achieve is truly yours? What opportunities and resources do you have that will help you achieve it?
Visualize the situation once you have achieved it – how do you feel? What did achieving the goal give you?
How do you feel if you didn’t achieve it 100%, but only partially?
Any moment in life is a good time to make some changes – you don’t have to wait until the end of the year or any other time, some specific date, to do so.
Visualize the situation once you have achieved it – how do you feel? What did achieving the goal give you?
How do you feel if you didn’t achieve it 100%, but only partially?
Any moment in life is a good time to make some changes – you don’t have to wait until the end of the year or any other time, some specific date, to do so.
We are all familiar with such “from Monday I won’t…”, or other “from the New Year I will….”. Most resolutions have one thing in common – they don’t always succeed as we set out for ourselves. This is influenced by factors beyond our control, but also those that are within our control – we may simply shy away from something because we come to the conclusion that it is not what we want. If you’re in this situation, know that it’s okay! Pay attention to how children most often do this – how they look for interests, keep trying new things, and something they don’t like they naturally abandon to look for something new tomorrow. Of course, the point is not to give up after the first stumble – each case is different and should be well considered. If a child or adult loves an area and you can see that it brings him pleasure and satisfaction, but some difficulty has occurred, and with it the desire to give up – what then? You need to answer the question – is it just a loss of motivation due to difficulties, or maybe the field is not what makes your child or you happy.
That’s right – what about persistence?
Persistence allows us to achieve our goals despite the difficulties encountered along the way. However, what if it turns out that this goal visible on the horizon is not what we want? What if, visualizing the achievement of that goal, we don’t feel happy or satisfied? In such cases, will persistence and stubborn pursuit of that goal always be a good thing? Every situation is different. If, for example, you started your studies, the direction of which turned out to be unattractive to you, it matters whether you are a student of, say, the 1st or 5th year. If it’s the beginning of your studies – you may want to consider changing your major, but if you have one semester left to graduate – you should consider whether it’s worth it and only then think about what to do next.
It is never worth giving up if you are pursuing something you truly want.
Be forgiving to yourself as you travel the road to your dream goal. Tenderly allow yourself to relax and always be an ally to yourself. Have the courage to say to yourself “I’m doing well, I’m on the right track,” but also “I failed and I’m sad, but I’ll try next time.”
That’s right – what about persistence?
Persistence allows us to achieve our goals despite the difficulties encountered along the way. However, what if it turns out that this goal visible on the horizon is not what we want? What if, visualizing the achievement of that goal, we don’t feel happy or satisfied? In such cases, will persistence and stubborn pursuit of that goal always be a good thing? Every situation is different. If, for example, you started your studies, the direction of which turned out to be unattractive to you, it matters whether you are a student of, say, the 1st or 5th year. If it’s the beginning of your studies – you may want to consider changing your major, but if you have one semester left to graduate – you should consider whether it’s worth it and only then think about what to do next.
It is never worth giving up if you are pursuing something you truly want.
Be forgiving to yourself as you travel the road to your dream goal. Tenderly allow yourself to relax and always be an ally to yourself. Have the courage to say to yourself “I’m doing well, I’m on the right track,” but also “I failed and I’m sad, but I’ll try next time.”
Celebrate the arrival of the New Year joyfully and thoughtfully.
We wish everyone a smile and inner harmony. And let New Year’s resolutions be flexible and leave at least a little space.
We wish everyone a smile and inner harmony. And let New Year’s resolutions be flexible and leave at least a little space.